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Becoming a Trusted Leader – Which Are You Building?

MistrustKey Bible Verse:  If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the fault. Matthew 18:15

Bonus ReadingProverbs 11:24-25

To build mistrust:  Complain to others about problems you’re having with a peer without trying to solve the problem directly.  Establish an atmosphere where this is tolerated.  (It is foolish to belittle a neighbor.Proverbs 11:12)

But to build trust:  Solve problems through direct communication at the lowest equivalent level: you and your peers; you and your direct manager; you, your manager, and his manager.  Establish an atmosphere where this is the culture.

To build mistrust:  Take credit for yourself, or allow others to give you credit for an achievement that wasn’t all yours.  (Don’t praise yourself; let others do it!Proverbs 27:2)

But to build trust:  Share credit generously. When in doubt, share.

To build mistrust:  Make a pretend or “halfhearted” commitment, e.g., “I’ll get back to you.” (If you can help your neighbor now, don’t say, “Come back tomorrow, and then I’ll help you.“—Proverbs 3:28)

But to build trust:  When in doubt about taking on a commitment, air your concerns with the relevant parties.  In an ongoing commitment, communicate anticipated slippage as soon as you suspect it.  Ask for help.

—Arky Ciancutti & Thomas Steding in Built on Trust

My Response:  What change would make me a better trust builder?

Thought to Apply:  A boss creates fear, a leader confidence. A boss fixes blame, a leader corrects mistakes. A boss knows all, a leader asks questions.—Russel Ewing

Adapted from Built on Trust (McGraw-Hill, 2000)

Prayer for the Week:  Lord, help me to promote a shared vision and mesh my energies with those of others to achieve it.
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