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Valentine’s Day – “Just Because” Gifts

Valentine - DogKey Bible Verse:  Husbands, go all out in love for your wives.  Don’t take advantage of them.  Colossians 3:19, The Message.

Dig Deeper:  Ephesians 5:25-33

It’s very likely that gifts (of any size) mean more to your wife than you imagine.  Of course, the art of gifting takes high priority at the Big Five: Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, Christmas, your anniversary, and her birthday.  But those are obligatory gift-giving dates.

Spur-of-the-moment gifts can be much more satisfying than Big Five gifts.  Your wife may not say that out loud, but I’ll bet she agrees.

Again, I’m not talking about gifts connected to any holiday. I’m also not talking about a gift designed to get you out of the doghouse.  Husbands, you need a plan to give your wife a gift (cards, flowers, candies, jewelry, jammies) for no reason.

Here’s what you do: Pull out your calendar and mark weeks during which there are no holidays or other days that are special to your wife.  Every family calendar is different, but the idea is to find a window of opportunity to give your wife a “just because” gift.  Mark that week on your calendar and then surprise her on that predetermined date with a gift box or bouquet.

When she asks, “What’s this for?” simply say, “Just because.”

—Jay Payleitner in 52 Things Wives Need from Their Husbands


My Response: I will plan to give my wife two or three inexpensive “just because” gifts over the next two or three months.


Thought to Apply: Love is not communicated in the big event but in the small acts of kindness.—Richard Foster (theologian, writer)

Adapted from 52 Things Wives Need from Their Husbands (Harvest House, 2011).


Prayer for the Week:  Creator of Marriage, forgive me when I take my wife for granted, acting as if she’s not there or doesn’t even matter to my life; show me how to love her more tenderly, passionately, and selflessly.

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